Lance and his daughter talk about what life was like growing up in the Legacy Dads house, getting into trouble, relationships and what dads can do to raise confident, secure young women.
Dante and Lance talk about how Lance and his wife went from being separated and headed to divorce to healing, earning back trust, and repairing the damage in their marriage.
Lance and his wife talk about common themes of dysfunctional families and parents struggling with children who exhibit behavioral issues. Lance's wife is a licensed behavioral health clinician working with children, teens, and families.
Socialism is popular on many college campuses today and some politicians are even trying to claim that Jesus and the early Christians were actually involved in socialist practices. Dante and Lance examine this theory from both a Biblical and economics point of view.
Lance and Dante talk about balancing being in the world but not of the world and how that affects our walk and witness. For parents, balancing sheltering our children with exposing them to the world without fear
Dante and Lance discuss Matthew 7 and judgmental attitudes. Dante and Lance also discuss racism and how dehumanizing thoughts and language can lead people to do unimaginable things.
Lance and Dante talk about how to maintain civility and be the salt and light on social media and when discussing highly charged topics.
Dante and Lance discuss a NY Times article where the author tries to imply that being a good dad means you're taking on the role of a mother. Gender Roles and Biblical Roles.
Dante and Lance join the discussion on "toxic masculinity" and how it differs from God's design for biblical manhood.
Dante and Lance discuss breaking down walls and how Christians should respond with grace and truth on social media.
As Lance reflects back on his years as a parent, he shares two areas that he would probably make different decisions about today.
A Sight in Camp in the Daybreak Gray and Dim
Walt Whitman, 1819 - 1892
A sight in camp in the daybreak gray and dim,
As from my tent I emerge so early sleepless,
As slow I walk in the cool fresh air the path near by the hospital tent,
Three forms I see on stretchers lying, brought out there untended lying,
Over each the blanket spread, ample brownish woolen blanket,
Gray and heavy blanket, folding, covering all.
Curious I halt and silent stand,
Then with light fingers I from the face of the nearest the first just lift the blanket;
Who are you elderly man so gaunt and grim, with well-gray’d hair, and flesh all sunken about the eyes?
Who are you my dear comrade?
Then to the second I step—and who are you my child and darling?
Who are you sweet boy with cheeks yet blooming?
Then to the third—a face nor child nor old, very calm, as of beautiful yellow-white ivory;
Young man I think I know you—I think this face is the face of the Christ himself,
Dead and divine and brother of all, and here again he lies.
Vigil Strange I Kept on the Field One Night
Walt Whitman, 1819 - 1892
Vigil strange I kept on the field one night;
When you my son and my comrade dropt at my side that day,
One look I but gave which your dear eyes return’d with a look I shall never forget,
One touch of your hand to mine O boy, reach’d up as you lay on the ground,
Then onward I sped in the battle, the even-contested battle,
Till late in the night reliev’d to the place at last again I made my way,
Found you in death so cold dear comrade, found your body son of responding kisses, (never again on earth responding,)
Bared your face in the starlight, curious the scene, cool blew the moderate night-wind,
Long there and then in vigil I stood, dimly around me the battle-field spreading,
Vigil wondrous and vigil sweet there in the fragrant silent night,
But not a tear fell, not even a long-drawn sigh, long, long I gazed,
Then on the earth partially reclining sat by your side leaning my chin in my hands,
Passing sweet hours, immortal and mystic hours with you dearest comrade—not a tear, not a word,
Vigil of silence, love and death, vigil for you my son and my soldier,
As onward silently stars aloft, eastward new ones upward stole,
Vigil final for you brave boy, (I could not save you, swift was your death,
I faithfully loved you and cared for you living, I think we shall surely meet again,)
Till at latest lingering of the night, indeed just as the dawn appear’d,
My comrade I wrapt in his blanket, envelop’d well his form,
Folded the blanket well, tucking it carefully over head and carefully under feet,
And there and then and bathed by the rising sun, my son in his grave, in his rude-dug grave I deposited,
Ending my vigil strange with that, vigil of night and battle-field dim,
Vigil for boy of responding kisses, (never again on earth responding,)
Vigil for comrade swiftly slain, vigil I never forget, how as day brighten’d,
I rose from the chill ground and folded my soldier well in his blanket,
And buried him where he fell
Lance and Dante talk about why being an overprotective parent has negative consequences on our children and their development. Studies show that over coddling our children can have emotional, behavioral, and even cognitive repercussions.
See Our Original Post from 2009 - https://www.legacydad.com/blogs/overprotective-parents-underdeveloped-children-part-1
Live from Doctrine and Devotion 2018 - Lance and Dante talk about Biblical masculinity
and reflections on keynotes from Joe Thorn and Doug Logan, Jr. #docanddevo2018
What religious group do you think is the fastest growing religion in America?
Evangelical Christians? Nope. Muslims? No again. Catholics? No.
Lance and Dante talk about who the "nones" are and how the church can engage them.
Dante talks with Lance about attributes of combat leadership and leading decisively. The difference between leadership and management and why most programs teach management but call it leadership.
Dante and Lance's son talk about growing up with a Legacy Dad and realizing that faith was real along with living out our faith and being an example to others. Fruit if the Spirit. 1 Corinthians 13
Lance's son talks about missionary training with Unusual Soldiers and Caleb Bislow, author of Dangerous, and why fulfilling the Great Commission is not always easy. Check out Unusual Soldiers at http://www.unusualsoldiers.com/
Lance and his wife discuss barriers to a healthy marriage based on Biblical principles and their 21 years of marriage, counseling, and the tools they have used and taught to others. Early in their marriage, Lance and his wife almost divorced but successfully turned the marriage around using these insights.
1 Corinthians 13:11English Standard Version (ESV)11 When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.
In the next few posts we will unpack what it means to move from boyhood to manhood (moving from Milk to Meat).
If this verse makes you ponder, convicts you, or challenges you to take your life, your walk with God to the next level, then pray! Ask God to reveal things in you that need to move from boyhood to manhood.