Do You Attract or Repel People?

I've had a turn of events in the past couple weeks that lead me to write this passage. 

Several people and couples have come to me and asked for spiritual, marital or financial guidance and I stopped today to examine why? 

We've had more couples and singles come to church with us this past year than any other year?

We don't invite people or even allude to the fact that people should come check out "our thing"  They simply come up and ask if we would mind bringing them along. 

Pm      I would like to think that it is because of some wonderful thing I've done but I really think it is God working through our family.

We've worked very hard in the past few years on Character and Value development in our family.  On truly being transparent.

We speak, act and live the values I talk about here on Legacy Dad. 

Are we perfect?  Of course not and far from it.  But, the point is we constantly strive for that as the standard not the exception.

We also speak positively at all times.  You won't hear me cracking jokes about the "old lady" and I always try to be uplifting to whoever I meet. 

I have prayed to be an uplifting person to everyone I meet for the past 2 years  because in the past I found it easy to jump on the pity or criticism bandwagon.

I'm listening to Joel Osteen's "Your Best Life Now" and he illustrates the fact that the words we speak have a huge impact not only on ourselves but on how others perceive us and our beliefs.

If people constantly hear us complain, put down others, or place blame for our adversities on outside forces then they assume you are a negative person and generally don't want to be around you, ESPECIALLY if they have their own problems and are searching quietly for answers.   Magnet_2

This is something I constantly harp on fellow Christians about and I think it further adds to some of the hypocrisy we see in our faith.

Why would we seek marital advice from someone who constantly berates or cuts down their spouse?

Furthermore, speaking positive comments alone will not create trust in those around us.  They must also see action and conviction. 

However, I believe speaking and praying for what we hope to become or strive for is the first step in creating a mustard seed in our lives which will further blossom into and full grown tree of truth. 

I have prayed for the past 3 years daily to be the best husband and father I can be and to be an example to other people and Christians.  Perhaps my prayers are taking fruit. 

There is a flip side to this as well.  When people see you fail and face adversity and moreover how you deal with conflict and adversity, it makes you more human and relateable.  No one likes people who constantly look, act and speak perfectly.  it just is not really.

However, speaking your values, beliefs and not compromising them when in mixed company goes a long way in proving your character. 

I am by no means perfect or some example to follow but somehow my families appearance, words and convictions seem to draw people toward us. 

So in closing I believe we need to first start with our words as is told in James 1:26

"If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless."

Next we need to place these words into our convictions as in Romans 14:22-23

"The faith which you have, have as your own conviction before God. Happy is he who does not condemn himself in what he approves."

Finally, once these words and convictions are our in heart, the Lord will do the rest to expand your personal ministry. 

"Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity."   - 1 Timothy 4:12