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If your church is not equipping men to be Elders through discipleship and relationship.....you may have a big problem

Dear Legacy Dads,

  • How many of you are actively reading your bible?
  • How many of you are walking with other men?
  • How many of you pray regularly?
  • How many of you are actively involved in a Men’s Ministry?
  • How many of you are in relationship with men in this Ministry?  How many of you have accountability (true, raw and honest?)
  • When are you ready to be serious about discipleship?

Please read the Book of Titus if you can before you read this post.

Chapter 1:

First note that Paul gave Titus the question:

5 This is why I left you in Crete

Why did Paul leave Titus?  Answer:  “so that you might put what remained into order, and appoint elders in every town as I directed you”

What is Titus supposed to do once he is there?  Answer:  6 if anyone is above reproach, the husband of one wife,[d] and his children are believers[e] and not open to the charge of debauchery or insubordination. 7 For an overseer,[f] as God’s steward, must be above reproach. He must not be arrogant or quick-tempered or a drunkard or violent or greedy for gain, 8 but hospitable, a lover of good, self-controlled, upright, holy, and disciplined. 9 He must hold firm to the trustworthy word as taught, so that he may be able to give instruction in sound[g] doctrine and also to rebuke those who contradict it.

Is there any major issues that Titus should look out for?  Answer:

10 For there are many who are insubordinate, empty talkers and deceivers, especially those of the circumcision party.[h] 11 They must be silenced, since they are upsetting whole families by teaching for shameful gain what they ought not to teach. 12 One of the Cretans,[i] a prophet of their own, said, “Cretans are always liars, evil beasts, lazy gluttons.”[j] 13 This testimony is true. Therefore rebuke them sharply, that they may be sound in the faith, 14 not devoting themselves to Jewish myths and the commands of people who turn away from the truth. 15 To the pure, all things are pure, but to the defiled and unbelieving, nothing is pure; but both their minds and their consciences are defiled. 16 They profess to know God, but they deny him by their works. They are detestable, disobedient, unfit for any good work.

Chapter 2:  A-to-do-list:
Titus 2English Standard Version (ESV)

Teach Sound Doctrine
2 But as for you, teach what accords with sound[a] doctrine. 2 Older men are to be sober-minded, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith, in love, and in steadfastness. 3 Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, 4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. 6 Likewise, urge the younger men to be self-controlled. 7 Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity, 8 and sound speech that cannot be condemned, so that an opponent may be put to shame, having nothing evil to say about us. 9 Bondservants[b] are to be submissive to their own masters in everything; they are to be well-pleasing, not argumentative, 10 not pilfering, but showing all good faith, so that in everything they may adorn the doctrine of God our Savior.

How is all of this possible for Titus to do?  Answer:

1 For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people, 12 training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives in the present age, 13 waiting for our blessed hope, the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, 14 who gave himself for us to redeem us from all lawlessness and to purify for himself a people for his own possession who are zealous for good works.

15 Declare these things; exhort and rebuke with all authority. Let no one disregard you.

Chapter:  Once you have Elders, who are healthy:

Titus 3English Standard Version (ESV)

Be Ready for Every Good Work
3 Remind them to be submissive to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready for every good work, 2 to speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all people. 3 For we ourselves were once foolish, disobedient, led astray, slaves to various passions and pleasures, passing our days in malice and envy, hated by others and hating one another. 4 But when the goodness and loving kindness of God our Savior appeared, 5 he saved us, not because of works done by us in righteousness, but according to his own mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewal of the Holy Spirit, 6 whom he poured out on us richly through Jesus Christ our Savior, 7 so that being justified by his grace we might become heirs according to the hope of eternal life. 8 The saying is trustworthy, and I want you to insist on these things, so that those who have believed in God may be careful to devote themselves to good works. These things are excellent and profitable for people.

And a final warning for those who do not take this discipleship process seriously:

9 But avoid foolish controversies, genealogies, dissensions, and quarrels about the law, for they are unprofitable and worthless. 10 As for a person who stirs up division, after warning him once and then twice, have nothing more to do with him, 11 knowing that such a person is warped and sinful; he is self-condemned.


If your church is not raising men to be qualified to be Elders in their church then are they reading God’s word effectively?

Is your men’s ministry producing Elders and Deacons and Lay Leaders?  Are these men leading their families and mentees biblically?

If not, why not?

More on this,
Blessings,
Dante

 

 

 

Dante is a successful business professional but his heart and passion lay in the church. Dante is currently serving as a church elder, leading a marriage mentoring group with his wife, and he co-leads the Men’s Ministries at his church. Dante lives in the Chicago area with his wife and three small children.