Speaker for Family Matters
The Short Version
I’m not the pastor of an up and coming mega-church. I’m not some parenting guru and I’m not here trying to sell some easy 8 Step Program. I don’t want anything from you but I do want something for you and for your children.
Simply, I’m a dedicated husband, father to two teenagers and Follower of Jesus. I am struggling daily to be the best husband and father I can while creating a lasting legacy in my children’s lives by focusing on areas of true significance.
Back when I first became a parent, I was clueless but wanted to ensure that I raised strong kids who would grow up to be intelligent, moral adults who would impact the world. The problem was that everyone (authors, experts, pediatricians, psychologists, educators, etc.) all had varying and sometimes conflicting opinions on how I should do this
I spent the next 10 years reading over 300 parenting books, attending parenting conferences and combing the internet for answers while practicing and learning along the way. I’ve also looked at tons of research data which give us some insights into what is really working and what is not when it comes to parenting and passing on our faith to the next generation.
This is my personal blog. It is focused on my misadventures and successes in parenting and being a man of faith. We are transparent and don’t sugar coat anything. Our mission is to help enhance churches and empower parents by connecting them with a common biblical road-map and strategy from birth to college using what truly works. We accomplish this by partnering with churches and ministries to enhance their existing programs with our parenting conference, keynotes and small group video studies.
We believe that Strong Families = Strong Churches = Strong Communities.
As a result, I write on parenting, leadership, biblical manhood and developing our next generation of Christian leaders. On occasion, I write about stuff that doesn’t fit neatly into one of these categories. On top of raising two teenagers and working in all ages of ministry, God has put a burden on my heart and harassed me into sharing this journey and what I’ve learned with other parents and men. When it comes to parenting, I’m not interested in opinion, but in what is Biblical and what truly works to create spiritual champions.
Connect With Me:
Twitter – @legacy_dad
Facebook – Lance Jacobs
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You can contact me personally to rant, complain or ask questions at firstname.lastname@example.org
The Really Long Version
First and foremost, I’m a follower of Jesus not a fan. I was raised in a very conservative, rigid and legalistic church and as a result, left my faith in my early 20′s until finding a true relationship with Jesus a few years later. I believe our daily actions in life are more important that our words. I attend church weekly, pray daily, read Christian books, and try to make my life a living example of Christianity. I’m not a right-wing fanatic and I actually have more agnostic and atheist friends than Christian. I’m a strong proponent of relational ministry and building bridges to the lost through love, grace and acceptance. I get unhappy with some of my fellow Christians legalistic, hypocritical and judgmental attitudes and frequently voice my opinion in favor of living by Jesus’ example of loving and accepting the sinners but not the sin. I can accept criticism of Christianity by nonbelievers as I have done the biblical, scientific and historical research to back up my faith. I’m not here to “Sell” people my faith or beliefs, everyone has to come to that decision on their own. I have an occasional drink in moderation and smoke a cigar every once in awhile. Sometimes, I even wear shorts to church (when it’s 95 degrees).
I married my dream girl, literally the Homecoming Queen. I was the long haired rebel who played in a band and lived a “less than Christian” lifestyle in my early years. We were married young and had our first child within a year with a second one soon after that and we had no idea what we were doing. My own father died before I was born so I promised to be the father that I never had.
After 2 years, I was a complete failure. I renounced Christianity and became an atheist. This led to a bad marriage, porn, strip clubs, immature decisions, drinking excessively, being selfish, emotional abusive, irresponsible. You name it, I did it. See: My Testimony
My wife and I separated for a year and a half and during that time I made some serious life changes. I came back to Christianity, got around men of character and truly started to work on becoming a real husband and father. Once my wife and I re-united, I strived to become the husband and father my family deserved. 15 years later, we have the best marriage we know of and our children our daily becoming strong, moral based leaders. I’m the youngest Dad of teenagers in my school district and my wife often gets asked if she does any other “babysitting” when she’s with my kids.
I founded and built my first business at age 17, a non-profit corporation and facility to help local youth. We transferred the corporation to a Christian group after 10 years and it was the longest running establishment of its kind in my home state. I built two other businesses when I first started college, which for better or worse, never went anywhere but were sure fun at the time.
After one year of college, I needed more direction (discipline) in life so I joined the military for three years before going back to college to earn a degree in Marketing. I started a career as a Financial Planner during/after the 2000 tech-bubble crash and eventually worked in Estate Planning for wealthy clients. I learned a lot and was mentored by retirees, wealthy clients and a few CEO’s on life, investing and what’s important as you reach the end. I also had a stint working at one of the worlds top modeling agencies, it was the worst job I ever had and was definitely not good for my marriage.
After September 11th 2001, I had a strong altruistic pull to once again work in the government. I also felt that I had left my band of brothers and sisters alone to face the most formidable enemy that America has ever faced. Call it patriotism, altruism or simple guilt; I decided to get back with the government for the long run and to retire young with a pension and healthcare. I work in Finance and Human Resources for the US Government and travel to exotic places frequently. My goal is to retire in the next ten years from the government at age 45, build a log cabin and then work full time in ministry and non-profit work. I know, delusions of grandeur.
This blog started in 2005 when God started calling/harassing me to share my fatherhood struggles and journey with others. I kept telling God “Not me, I’m not a pastor, I don’t have a theology degree, etc.” but God kept on me so this blog formed and is a testament of the process and daily struggles in life, marriage, parenthood and all matters of manhood. It’s also a strategic road map and written history of how we plan to transfer our faith, knowledge, values system and legacy on to our children.
For further explanations please see the About Us area of the blog.
My Relationship with God, My wonderful family, Hiking/Camping, Traveling the World, Reading and spending time with my beautiful, amazing wife. I also teach various classes at my church and volunteer whenever I can.