27 Dec 2006, Posted by Lance in General, No Comments.
Esse Quam Videri
because I was naked; so I hid myself."
You may have seen the phrase -Esse Quam Videri- at the bottom of my posts. It is Latin for "To be, rather than to appear." It is a mantra that I have adopted in my life.
Many of us hide, we hide from our true passions and
desires. We hide from taking the steps
towards our dreams. We hide because we
are afraid we will be found out. We are
afraid that someone will find out that we are not being the man we should be,
not using our full potential. We hide in
our offices, we hide in the gym, we hide in our sports, we hide behind the
television but most of all, we hide behind our personalities or masks.
Many women proclaim “My husband was such a gentlemen, so
passionate, so romantic before we were married, then something just died?’ Why do women say this? Because when we first date, we put on our
mask, we hide our true selves because we fear that our true selves, our inner
soul will be rejected by the world or even worse the woman we love.
I’ve met many successful men who had great jobs, trophy
wives, big house, new Mercedes, just bought a Harley last summer, etc. On the outside, they look as though they are
on top of the world, the envy of all men. But, when you speak privately with them and they share their true
feelings, they are dying on the inside, scared of being discovered as a
fake.
It is a rare instance that you will meet a man that shows
his true colors, he lives his values and wears his heart on his sleeve. When you meet them, they seem weird compared
to most people. They talk about dreams
and goals, adventure, following their heart, they are always happy, their wives
and kids are happy and secure. It makes
us feel threatened.
Men aren’t the only ones who like to pose, walk into any
church on a Sunday morning and listen to the conversations.
“How you doing?”
“Great, just fine, praise God”
What he doesn’t say is that his marriage is on the verge of
divorce, he is drowning in debt and he can’t talk with his teenage
daughter.
The leader of the women’s bible study is the same person who
is spreading rumors about other women.
Or how about the church leader who is having an affair with
the young woman from his work?
But we all just act fine because asking for help will show
some sort of weakness. Really?
Becoming a Legacy Dad is about getting out from behind the
fig leaf, taking the mask off and living life with your true values. Asking for help, telling people how it really
is, standing up for your faith at work. This process will really “fillet you open and show your true insides”
Some men simply cannot live this way; they would rather hide and let their soul
die a slow, suffocating death then to show people their true colors.
lives of your children and wife. Once
you cross over, you can see other people’s fakeness clear as day and you’ll want
to help them cross over as well. And
life on the other side is so much fuller, so much happier and a lot less
stressful. Taking the first step is
always the hardest.
“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”
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