This site is spiritual; we are mostly Christians and also feel that Biblical Parenting is by far the best form of parenting available. We will quote scripture in the best way we know how, however, we are not ordained in any way and are generally as clueless as the next guy.

I am not a Conservative/Right Wing Fanatic!

We are spiritual but not clueless or close minded.  I argue with organized religion and often criticise the very faith I believe in for being too judgemental, hypocritical and rigid in accepting others and their beliefs. Please don’t lump us in with all the fanatics.  For more evidence of this, read my rants on Christianity 2.0.

Why do I believe in God?

Like many friends and people I often talk to, I was raised in a church, forced to go and listen to sermons on guilt, repentance and often chastised by hypocritically clergy who lived a life no better than some common criminals. They preached on Sunday and drank and fornicated Monday through Saturday.

So why would I still believe this nonsense?

I have been on both sides of the coin, first someone forcibly raised in church but not necessarily believing all the dogma.  Second, a complete atheist, denouncing and criticizing God and those who believe in him. And finally a complete believer in Christianity though I often criticize the followers of said faith.

What has changed?

I did extensive research on both sides and arguments for and against religion.  I am a “thinking Christian” meaning I research what I believe and DO NOT simply follow blindly the teachings of the religion.

Many times we “shoot the messenger.”  Are there bad people in religion? Yes.  Are there bad leaders and clergy in religion? Yes.  Are there people who claim to be “holier than thou” but behind closed doors they’re the complete opposite?  Yes.

Many times, we run into religious people who are passionate about their faith but do not have the Apologetics background to back up some of their claims and therefore they come off as fanatics to those who are not believers and even those of us who are believers.  Put the bullhorn down.

Documentaries like Religulous target and interview these fanatics and aim to show the masses “how ridiculous organized religion and its adherents are.”  These documentaries and opponents of Christianity almost never take the time to interview someone knowledgeable on Christianity such as Josh McDowell or Lee Strobel. Instead, they interview those less informed and then poke fun at their beliefs because it serves their purpose to show Christians as non-thinkers, anti-science and cult followers.

What is truly important is the message, not the messengers.

The Bible clearly states that man is sinful, evil and will do destructive things.  So, this should be expected from those who are trying to follow the teachings of The Way.

Just like the game “telephone” everyone hears and interprets the message differently and therefore the teachings sometimes get blurred and mis-communicated.

We do not need religion, we simply need a relationship with God by faith in Jesus.

Religion has caused all the wars and destruction in the world!!!

Wrong.  Man has.

And by misinterpreting Gods teachings, many man have caused destruction and death.

God is a generous God but he also has a sense of humor and with this he gives us the ability to choose.  Sometimes man makes the wrong choice. Sometimes man gets the message mixed up and then tries to communicate things in the name of God.  This is legalism.

However, Jesus’ message stays the same and the key is in his teachings and example.

Don’t take my word, your pastor’s word or your mothers word.  Read it for yourself.

But isn’t the Bible fictitious and inaccurate?

There are many books that answer this question with scientific and historical accuracy; however, most people do not take the time to research this accuracy.

Here is the Summarized Version:

1. The 4 Gospels were all written within 30-35 years of the death of Jesus and are eyewitness accounts of the life and events of Jesus.

2. Oral Tradition has been scientifically shown to be historically accurate in preserving the actual truth of eyewitness accounts for up to 200 years after the event.

3.  In the first century, religious teachings were not aloud to be changed or crafted to make things “more believable.”  Jewish Pharisees were not aloud to speak publicly until they accurately memorized the stories of their religion.  If someone ever tried to change an account, these stories were self corrected by the other practitioners and eyewitnesses. Plus, blasphemy was punishable by death.

4. The fact that the 4 Gospels contain minor differences but retain all the same parables, facts and stories further proves that all 4 books were written independently by each author and that there was no collusion or crafting of the texts.

5.  Non-Christian authors alive during the times of Jesus also wrote about Jesus and his followers and also speak of miracles and his deeds.  Josephus, Plutarch, Silius Italicus, Epictetus, etc.

6. Martyrs for Fiction?

The writers of the New Testament were, in many instances, martyrs for their faith. Their prolific writings exist as a historical source. Why would these eyewitness observers die for fiction? These writers also took the subversive actions of writing to women and slaves rather than pandering only to men, which would hardly have made their writings popular according to the culture of the time. Yet we still have these writings preserved and available.

7. Agnostic Gospels.

The Agnostic Gospels were written during the third century, 300 years after the death of Jesus and beyond the time of the accuracy of oral tradition. Sorry, The Da vinci Code is a great FICTIONAL book that I truly enjoyed but it lacks actual historical accuracy as well as the Da Vinci Codes predecessors: “Holy Blood, Holy Grail” and “The Women with the Alabaster Jar”

8. Accuracy in Numbers.

Most ancient writings are considered accurate because they have numerous texts written during varying times, by varying people and cultures, all confirming the same information.   Plato, Caesar, Aristotle, and Homer all have between 7 to 640 ancient texts confirming their accuracy and teachings. Also all of these texts are dated between 500 to 1400 years after the events take place and no one debates their authenticity.

The New Testament has over 5600 textsconfirming its accuracy and with the recent discoveries of the Codex Vaticanus and the Codex Sinaiticus, their translations and dating within 70 years of the death of Jesus further confirms the accuracy of the current New Testament.

I can go on and on but I think you get the point here?

Most people simply do not go the distance in research or they only research one side of the coin accurately. Furthermore, some people take their past negative experiences with religion and simply apply a generalization that all religions, sects, and churches are this way.

I am not here to debate history or peoples beliefs.  I do not need to justify my own beliefs and I am not swayed by those who come at me with arguments against the Bible.

100% Scientifically and Mathematically Proven Fact!

I cannot prove the existence of my ancestors. I can however document their existence, but I cannot PROVE it with 100% scientific and mathematical fact. The ability to unequivocally prove or disprove anyone’s existence throughout history is based primarily upon surviving information and our ability to interpret that information.

Some people simply will not believe unless God came down and touched them on the shoulder on Prime Time Television and they still would probably have some explanation why this was not true.

Plain and Simple.

I am a Christian because I have faith and clear and convincing evidence  that Christianity is accurate in its teachings and texts. I like living my life by the set of defining morals and values taught in the Bible and it does not impose upon my lifestyle when accurately interpreted.  I don’t believe that making up my own rules on morality or living a hedonist lifestyle is healthy or intelligent.

Some people fear religion because if they choose to believe, they can no longer do all the destructive things in their life in good conscience. And rather than change our ways, we continue to deny the existence and sometimes fight against those who believe because we are scared and do not want to change.

From personal experience, I am a much better person because I chose to change and believe.

See My Testimony for more.

Most of all, I now enjoy my faith.

This was not always true, but I keep seeking truth and purity in faith and even now, I still question and examine my faith because through this comes further understanding.

If we have a bad experience with a mechanic, do we stop taking our car in for service and repairs?  No, we find a good mechanic who can fix our car and explain the process to us.

Faith is just that, faith.  At some point you have to look at all the evidence and choose.  Since making this choice, I have had numerous things happen in my life that have happened positively because of my faith.  I did not have this when I was an atheist.

If you are an Aethist or you are a non-practicing Christian:

This site is still relevant in all areas.  The parent practices here work regardless of your religious beliefs and one seeks intelligence by studying and examining all sides of an argument.  I invite all atheists or any other faith or belief system to open share and criticize this site as it will bring up further discussion and learning for everyone.

If you have left the faith, this site could possibly rekindle your passion for Christ; it took us many years of exploring various forms of Christianity to find one that fit for us. True faith should be accepting, non-judgemental and open to all views and people. If you have not experienced that in the past, we invite you to come here.

See Lance’s Spirituality post

We have experienced many forms of Christianity as well as living and working with Muslims and Buddhist monks in foreign countries. We personally feel we can all learn from each other.

We are not gurus, we have nothing to sell and we are not looking for a fan club to support our cause.

We are trying to use the gifts God gave us to share with others and help parents and men need.

This is not about our agenda, it is about solving the Silent Epidemic.

Esse Quam Videri