Cleaning House

A pathway to purity

If you are like me and you have/had older parents than you can appreciate the phrase that “we have to clean house”.  My mother died in March of 2011, which was a year after they went to assisted living as the doctors believed that they were too old to take care of themselves in their own home.  This was a hard transition for my parents and my siblings as they were not to keen on change.  It was particularly harder for my sister and I who literally took over the financial (me) and medical (my sister) while the other two siblings opted out.

clean house

In this transition we finally had to come to terms on cleaning out the house.  After renting the house, putting things in storage and finally selling the house, then we had to clean out the house.  It truly epitomizes the term, “IT all goes back in the box”.  In talking with friends and other distant family members, we all find ourselves in the point in our lives, be it family members, parents, relatives and or friends and church community where we have to clean out the house and help them clean out.

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How to Build Your Kids’ Confidence in YOU, as a Parent

Repost for Jackie Bledsoe

A few weeks ago, my wife and I were in our bedroom talking and our kids were in the room doing their own thing. The next thing we heard was, “Dad, can you come here!” from one of our sons. It didn’t sound like a panic, but there was a seriousness to the tone of his voice.

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This Post Comes From: could tell he was very concerned about something. I’ve heard that tone before, and typically he doesn’t say what it is he needs, but I know to come and see what’s going on. When I got to the room, it wasn’t an emergency, and most of those instances it’s not. It wasn’t even really a big deal…to us. But to him it was pretty serious, and he needed help.

After resolving the problem, my wife and I began to talk about it, I began to ask myself some questions, and I discovered some things that I believe can help us build our kids’ confidence in us as parents.

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Rule of Law


  • The rule of law is the legal principle that law should govern a nation, as opposed to being governed by arbitrary decisions of individual government officials.
  • Civil law, civilian law or Roman law is a legal system originating in Europe, intellectualized within the framework of late Roman law, and whose most prevalent feature is that its core principles are codified into a referable system which serves as the primary source of law.


Thomas Jefferson Quotes

  • A government big enough to give you everything you want, is big enough to take away everything you have. Thomas Jefferson
  • When we get piled upon one another in large cities, as in Europe, we shall become as corrupt as Europe. Thomas Jefferson
  • The democracy will cease to exist when you take away from those who are willing to work and give to those who would not.€Thomas Jefferson
  • It is incumbent on every generation to pay its own debts as it goes. A principle which if acted on would save one-half the wars of the world.€Thomas Jefferson
  • “I predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them.” Thomas Jefferson
  • “My reading of history convinces me that most bad government results from too much government.” Thomas Jefferson
  • “No free man shall ever be debarred the use of arms.” Thomas Jefferson
  • “The strongest reason for the people to retain the right to keep and bear arms is, as a last resort, to protect themselves against tyranny in government.” Thomas Jefferson
  • “The tree of liberty must be refreshed from time to time with the blood of patriots and tyrants.” Thomas Jefferson
  • “To compel a man to subsidize with his taxes the propagation of ideas which he disbelieves and abhors is sinful and tyrannical.” Thomas Jefferson
  • “I believe that banking institutions are more dangerous to our liberties than standing armies. If the American people ever allow private banks to control the issue of their currency, first by inflation, then by deflation, the banks and corporations that will grow up around the banks will deprive the people of all property until their children wake-up homeless on the continent their fathers conquered.” The Federal Reserve Bank (The FED) is a private bank.” Thomas Jefferson in 1802:

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Daddy Please….



Here are to legacy dads who decide to strike a chord,

following the Bible as our just reward

When others fail to follow God’s way,

Legacy dads humble themselves when we stray.

Although we may fail and lose our way,

We learn to trust in God and follow His way.

Walking with our brothers who share in our strife

we learn to be accountable in our daily life

Trusting and sharing and walking beside

We love our brothers and lean on Jesus as our guide

To be a better husband, father and friend

We trust in the Lord and we shall not bend

Loving our wives and children we will fight to the end

To hear our Lord say well done good and faithful friend

Independence Day

What has God freed you from through his Son...

All throughout history we see history of men who stood for truth and justice and independence – their freedom from evil and tyranny:

William Wallace, King Leonidas (the 300 Spartans), Winston Churchill, Mahatma Ghandi, George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, , William Wilberforce, William Tyndale (translated the Bible into English), Abraham Lincoln, Martin Luther King, Dietrich Bonhoeffer, The Apostles,

What about Jesus Christ – what did he do to sin, to death and for us?

  • 1 Peter 2:16 – Live as people who are free, not using your freedom as a cover-up for evil, but living as servants[a] of God.
  • Galatians 5:1 – For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery.
  • 2 Corinthians 3:17 – Now the Lord[a] is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.
  • Hebrews 12:1 (ESV) Jesus, Founder and Perfecter of Our Faith
  • 12 Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us


If you are a bible believing, Jesus Christ professing Christian and you believe in you heart that Jesus Christ was born of a virgin, lived on this earth and was crucified and rose again on the 3rd day and now sits at the right hand of God, then you have been set free.

Therefore, put to death the old self and put on the new self which we are in Jesus Christ and his Spirit resides in us.

Happy Independence Day.

Lance & Dante

Post Conference – Act Like Men….now what….?

Lance and I walked away from this conference with about 75 other men from our churches and men’s group along with 4,000 other men around many churches and we were not disappointed. Both he and I were affirmed in a good portion of our walk, convicted in some other parts that we have to sharpen up and work on and left wanting in some other areas.  Pastor James spoke on 1 Peter Chapter 3 (so did we a while ago – check this out on How to Build Up Your Wives).  This past weekend in my church’s men’s group, two of our facilitators talked about marriage and convictions and confessions of past sins that separated us from our wives and God’s holiness, meaning these struggles need to be confessed and repented of, which would allow God’s Spirit to work through us.


1 Peter 3 English Standard Version (ESV)

Wives and Husbands

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.

Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you[a] of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

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Some takeaways from ActLikeMen2015

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Lance and I will be posting our takes and viewpoints on all the material covered at Act Like Men 2015 this past weekend over the next few weeks.

Once again, the theme verse was:  1 Corinthians 16:13-  (ESV) 13 Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. 14 Let all that you do be done in love.


Legacy Dad sponsored the event and we got to talk to a lot of men and churches that wanted to know what Legacy Dad can do for them.  At one point, I had a pastor come up and ask me for the two-minute elevator speech of what we are about.   Instead of responding to that question, I kindly asked this kind pastor what were some of the most important things to teach children and his men.  This led to a very good talk and he was very interested in what Legacy Dad could do for his church and men (we look forward to the opportunity).

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Acting Like Men

God's Calling For Men

If you would have asked me what it means to “Act Like A Man” 10-15 years ago,  I would have told you to work hard, be bold, gain leadership and become successful in your field.  Basically the worlds definition of success (Money, Power, Fame, Beauty) mixed with some Christian theology about being a good husband, father and fellow human being.  While this definition seems harmless, it is hardly Biblical or what God has called men to be.

Pray Hard

Paul gives men a lifetime of work in this passage from 1 Corinthians 16:13-14.

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